Sunday, 9 December 2012

Shifting plans and priorities

This has been quite a weekend.

A casual friend of my husband's lost her unborn child and found out she has a tumour.

A friend of ours lost her cousin who was in his early teens.  His parents donated his organs so others could live.  I don't know that a greater gift can be given.

I was reading our local paper yesterday morning and there was one obit which I didn't pay much attention to except I saw that the woman was survived by her son ... a very good friend of ours.  Her memorial service was yesterday afternoon.  So we went.  I had rescheduled a visit with my niece because I needed to study for a big Environmental exam on Monday.  Otherwise I would not have known.  And I don't always ready our paper.  I was meant to see this.

So we got ready and off we went to the memorial.  He was shocked ... and very happy ... to see us.  He had wanted to call but he knew how tough it was with my own mom when she died 4 years ago so he didn't want to burden us.  I was just very thankful that I did see the notice.  I would have felt far worse if I had not known ahead of time.

The only thing was ... I couldn't stop the tears.  My friend's dad reminded me a lot of my own who has been gone 11 years now.  When he hugged me he said "she's gone now" and that started the tears.  I am too sensitive to others for my own good sometimes.  Then I realized that I had not attended any type of funeral or memorial service since my mom.  They would have been close to the same age and as I was watching the photo display it reminded me so much of my mom's photos.  Once I get started I can't seem to stop.

Anyway, we were supposed to go to a party that night but neither one of us were really up to it so we stayed home and chilled.

Today I've been able to study, study, study.  I'm not sure if I'm ready but I've got a bit more time.

I had sent my coach an email to the effect of what happened yesterday and changing plans.  His response back to me was beautiful "Always plan to have plans change.  Flexiblity of thought and heart allows us to navigate and those that can embrace and learn are those that will lead a deeper and more meaningful life."

That served as a wonderful reminder to me to stay fluid.  Life will throw you curve balls when you least expect it.  The trick is to learn to catch those balls ... even if you have to stretch farther than you think you can to get them.

Life has been hectic to say the least the past few months.  I will try to update more often.  I have so much I want to share ... just finding the time to do it is my biggest challenge right now.

But I will be back before Christmas .... I just wanted to share this weekend with you.

Yours in health,,,,